If only! All my strengths have been turned upside down. Humour, spontaneity, former common ground… Just so much to be snubbed. It’s impossible to reach someone who’s mind is closed….
I’m sorry to hear that hurt because it sounds familiar and I felt helpless. I was really referring to the bridging of the 2 parts within myself because that’s what had to be done in my head. I think I thought I would have made things worse if I tried to fix things. I had to embrace the fact that I have no control over what others think of me, right or wrong. Of course, I knew it was wrong and I knew of real reasons to think the opposite but I couldn’t change the complicated, emotional mess it already was. I had to let it be and trust that things would rise and fall as they really were because I was angry and deeper than that – hurt. I would have made it worse for myself. It took a long time. I hope your situation isn’t as complicated. A closed mind is a waste of time.
oh yes it is. Worthless even. It’s actually empty, imo. I still hope you have an easier time with it. Maybe hope is just a direction to try and hold onto and work towards. When it becomes that though, I don’t like it. : )
WE react too quickly to other people’s perception of our selves. yet if we take a moment and not react , we would see it is nothing more than an indication of how they are , emotionally , psychologically and so on.
Do not take offense for they have shown themselves to you.
True sometimes. This case – because it is a personal case – is different in that this is someone who’s had ample opportunities and still chooses passive aggressive silence over a simple conversation; something that used to be a shared passion… People do change unfortunately and I am so saddened by what I’ve been shown: a heart gone cold.
I say the hardest part is the third step – peacefully bridging the gap of unknown between the two things. ??
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If only! All my strengths have been turned upside down. Humour, spontaneity, former common ground… Just so much to be snubbed. It’s impossible to reach someone who’s mind is closed….
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I’m sorry to hear that hurt because it sounds familiar and I felt helpless. I was really referring to the bridging of the 2 parts within myself because that’s what had to be done in my head. I think I thought I would have made things worse if I tried to fix things. I had to embrace the fact that I have no control over what others think of me, right or wrong. Of course, I knew it was wrong and I knew of real reasons to think the opposite but I couldn’t change the complicated, emotional mess it already was. I had to let it be and trust that things would rise and fall as they really were because I was angry and deeper than that – hurt. I would have made it worse for myself. It took a long time. I hope your situation isn’t as complicated. A closed mind is a waste of time.
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You’re right! I just can’t seem to do that yet. Hope is such a futile emotion at times…
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oh yes it is. Worthless even. It’s actually empty, imo. I still hope you have an easier time with it. Maybe hope is just a direction to try and hold onto and work towards. When it becomes that though, I don’t like it. : )
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WE react too quickly to other people’s perception of our selves. yet if we take a moment and not react , we would see it is nothing more than an indication of how they are , emotionally , psychologically and so on.
Do not take offense for they have shown themselves to you.
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True sometimes. This case – because it is a personal case – is different in that this is someone who’s had ample opportunities and still chooses passive aggressive silence over a simple conversation; something that used to be a shared passion… People do change unfortunately and I am so saddened by what I’ve been shown: a heart gone cold.
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oh I see
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