Petites Pensées ~ Former Lovers

The hardest thing for me to understand is, how do you get from finishing my sentences, making me laugh until I cry, challenging me, longing for me, pushing me, searching me out after years… To this wall of cold silence?

I think if I knew the why of it, acceptance would come in time and I could stop having these conversations with myself that always seem to end with “well… if he cared, you would know, not questioning”.

After all that we meant to each other, how can you treat me with the detachment of a specimen under your microscope? More importantly – why?

~ kei
21 November 2015

How do I get back to the full dashboard on


I work exclusively from the old dashboard. I find it a calmer, better organized workspace, and less ‘screaming Twee’ visually.
This post by Liz Dexter owner of Libro Editing, explains how you can get to the old version of the dashboard very well.

Originally posted on LibroEditing proofreading, editing, transcription, localisation:

I’ve been asked this question a few times recently, as WordPress has sought to make it easier for users to post a quick blog post or create a page. People who are familiar with the old, more detailed dashboard want to find it again. So here’s how.

How do I find the old dashboard on WordPress?

When you log on to WordPress, you will find a button marked My Sites. Click on that and you’ll get the new, simplified dashboard:

WordPress new admin page

Now click on WP Admin, circled on the above image.

This will take you to the old familiar interface:

Old WordPress dashboard

Note: this works for, the free version – self-hosted is a little different. If you’ve found this post useful, please do share it using the sharing buttons below.

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Hmm… Well that was a bit of temper wasn’t it?

Fact is, I need a break from WordPress. It’s been close to four years, ninety percent of which was spent managing my once fiancé, the Narcissist Poet, our families and the machinations of a  boat load of Apaths invented and real, that he was continually acquiring.

One of them continues to attempt covering up her shitty behaviour by slandering me to other poets on WP. How do I know? One of you told me she does, worse, some believe it.


I’ve been asked to contribute an article about the Survivor’s perspective after escaping a Narcissistic relationship. The article will be published in a new book being published by a respected clinician in the field and I’ll be detailing events and my ongoing recovery in the chapter that I provide.

I’m honoured. My intention has always been to shine a light on this little known and widely misunderstood pathology and I intend to give it my full attention. To that end, I’ll be gone for a while. Eclectic Unconfined has gone private for the duration, all else will be moved to the back burner while I write, regroup and reassess.

My friends will be able to reach me via email as always and for a perspective on how Narcissism can affect your life, reading my blog from the early days on may show you. The initial love, the  creeping doubts, the dawning realization, the awful truth and implosion and sadly, the ongoing fallout. I would have preferred that it had been private but we can’t choose who targets us, only how we pick up the pieces.

This post on Let Me Reach, promises to have a wealth of information to share for those of you who may be looking for answers for yourself, a friend or loved one.

~ kei
14 November 2015